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As John Edwards has finally come out and admitted that he had an affair after months of denial, Elizabeth Edwards has said that she will stand by her man.  He is another one of a long list of politicians that has admitted to having an extra-marital affair.  The worst thing about it was that his wife who has sacrificed everything including putting her life on hold while he made his campaign bid for President! She luckily had enough sense to not be at the press conference when he decided to admit this to the world.  Having said all that, I am not quite sure if I could stand by my man.  Granted I don’t know what I would do if I were in that situation having been married to someone for over a decade and having born children with them, I might think differently.  But I would like to see for once the wife of a politician say publicly I will divorce my husband for cheating on me! Not only do I think it is the utmost betrayal, the female spouse has to face public scrutiny although she did not herself elect to be in the public eye!

I understand that there are lots of factors to consider before making such a life changing decision such as divorcing your spouse.  But there is a difference between right and wrong and I tend to see these things in black and white as opposed to gray like a lot of people do.  You decided to get married to someone and you took vows.  What separates adults from children and or other species is that we can think.  You decide whether or not to do something.  Granted judgment can sometimes become impaired due to alcohol but you decide consciously to cheat on your wife and to take actions to make that happen that you could have prevented.  If you are presented with a situation where you are tempted to do something then extract yourself from it! You don’t keep going back to it! Especially if it is something that happens over the course of a longer period of time! I completely understand that when you get married you do not suddenly become completely unattractived to people of the other sex but I think you consciously make an effort not to act upon those feelings! With that having been said and having gone out with someone who I found out was married I do not understand it unless you and your spouse both consented to permit the other one to do see or date other people since you were having problems.  But that is something you should disclose to the person that you are seeing/dating so that they can consciously decide whether or not they want to participate!  The flip side is that sometimes women take their spouses as they are–if they knew that the spouse would not or could not be faithful and accepted that in return for safety, security, and or the understanding that their spouse would always come back to them I would feel sorry for those women but at least they consciously made that choice.  Some say Hillary Clinton made this choice but many before her have done so and many after will have do so as well.  Who is to judge since she is now the junior Senator from New York who has become the first women to have gone so for in the Presidential nomination process!

Regardless of the circumstances, if my significant other ever cheated on me I would have to think long and hard before being able to decide whether I wanted to remain with that person.

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