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So, the hardest thing and the one thing that you have no control over is whether the person whom you are interested in is also interested in you. I always equate looking for a job with looking for a man because they are very similar. You are looking for someone with whom you share a mutual interest–they in you and you in them. It was fun initially to have all these men interested in you! But after a while you realize that fewer and fewer of them are willing to make the effort to get to know you better and how horrible is that? If I meet someone I want them to want to get to know me! If that isn’t there initially I don’t think it will ever be there!

To recap, I have been on Chemistry.com for about two months. It automatically renews so I did not catch it before it renewed me for a second month. I have been in various stages of “talking” to someone but have only met one person on a date. And granted I probably did not screen him out sufficiently because the date was horrible and I made up an excuse and left fairly early on. It was more like I ran out the door before the check came. He did not contact me and I did not contact him so perhaps it was mutual. However, I do not know since I went home and archived his profile shortly thereafter. He said he was 40 on his profile but I don’t think he aged well at all and we lacked topics to talk about in terms of conversation and this is rare considering that I think I can talk to a lot of people. Ever since that incident I have been reluctant to show interest” in anyone and even when I do and I’ve reached the point where I am able to email them and or talk to them perhaps I am quick to jump the gun in terms of archiving them if they do not respond in three days. A girlfriend of mine who does on line date more than I do has yelled at me and said that I need to give it more time and that some people may not respond for up to a week. But in all honestly,….it’s on line dating! It’s bad enough that I have to show interest in you–how much more easier do I have to make if for you? Do you really want me to stand in front of you naked because we’re pretty close to that in my opinion. All you have to do is email me back and I’m not even asking for a long email you know??? So right now I am just waiting for my subscription to run out and have shown interest in random people just for the sake of it. What exactly do I have to lose? NOTHING! But at the same time I am beginning to think more and more that this is not a forum that is good for me. If I meet someone I that I want to get to know I would hope that they would want to get to know me as well! If they are not going to make the effort to respond to a short email I wrote them then do I really want to go out with them? I don’t want to have to chase someone down and make them like me! That is way way way too much work! And if they don’t try to make that type of effort early on do you really think they are going to make that effort sometime down the line? I don’t think so! This is of course one of the reasons why I am probably still single!

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