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So I have been registered with one of the on line dating sites for what will be going on my second month.  Initially it was fun with all these guys who were interested in me but as it turns out most of them were duds or easily screened out on a wide variety of reasons like they were too old, lived too far away, didn’t have enough education, were separated, divorced, or had small children.  Boy I do sound really superficial don’t I??? I went out on one date but it probably would have been better if I had not.  It was a guy who said he was 41 but seemed much older in person.  We had basically almost nothing in common.  We managed to get through drinks and dinner which was a shared salad and a personal pizza before I made up an excuse that I had to leave to go back to work which I did not.  However, earlier I had contemplated postponing because I had to wait for my boss to review something before I left but I did not.  Big mistake–that is a whole other story! Needless to say I didn’t contact this guy again and vice versa.  I think I can talk to almost anyone but it was really REALLY hard to talk to him.  When I was at the bar waiting for him to show up and right when he came up to me and asked whether I was so and so part of me wanted to pretend that I wasn’t and leave but I did not.  Needless to say that was the only person I actually went out with.  After that I really didn’t have much energy to talk to any of the other people I was talking to and to be quite honest I have a short fuse.  If someone doesn’t get back to me within three days I tend to archive them.  There was one guy who was a firefighter in Alexandria that I was emailing and had not gone out with yet but after a crazy week I just didn’t find the energy to email him and slowly that kind of just faded away.  Being able to relate to someone and have things in common is something that is important to me so I didn’t think that I had anything really in common with someone who was a firefighter–yes I sound really superficial right now! And he was also African American which is fine under any normal circumstances but my parents are not that open and unfortunately they are not very “cool” with me seriously dating anyone who is black to put it bluntly.  I love my parents and I prefer not to be disowned by them so this is something I accept even though I know it is racist on their part.  One would hope that they would eventually come around if the person who made me happy was African American but if one does not have to fight that fight why should they have to just to prove a point?

So as I am stuck with one more month of this on line dating site,….it’s more like less than three weeks,…let’s see if I even come up with someone else to go out with.  Apparently other people have no problem finding someone to go out with on a date or two at least or end up dating them which brings me to the question of whether I am too stringent with my standards and don’t give someone a decent enough chance.  But at the same time,….I don’t think my heart is exactly in it considering all the other things that are going on in my life and also with my pre-occupation with a tall 28 year old guy that I met at a wedding who keeps creeping into my thoughts…..So $100+ down the drain and one really bad date.  Maybe there will be a good date around the corner if I don’t lose them during the three step process it takes to finally be able to email the other person.

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